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Why read this content to find out how
to win friends? Why not study the technique of the greatest winner of friends
the world has ever know who is he? You may meet him to-morrow coming down the street.
You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people
than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you but
remember people are not interested in you. They are not interested in me. They are
interested in themselves-morning, noon and after dinner.
#1 – Be Genuinely Interested In
Other People.Studies show that the word that people say more than any other is ‘I”. People love to talk about themselves, their lives, their hobbies, their families, their passions, etc… When you become interested in people, ask questions and allow them to talk, they will love you for it.
In a nutshell: Focus on being interested not interesting. There is a big difference. Interesting is about you, interested is about them.
#2 – Smiles
A smile is a simple gesture that doesn’t cost you money, time, or energy but it can brighten someone’s day, changes the way you feel and make you more approachable.
Smiling is attractive and contagious. People around you can’t help but smile when they see a big smile on your face.
#3 – Remembering and Using People’s Name
they say that the sweetest and most important sound in language is the sound of your own name.
We’ve all been there when you recognize the person but can’t remember their name. It’s awkward, uncomfortable and sometimes embarrassing. We often use the excuse that “I am not good with names,” but if you want to master people, you need to begin to remember names.
Develop a system, when you meet someone use their name 3 times in conversation or write their name down in a notebook with some notes about them. Figure out what works for you.
#4 Be a Good Listener
I love the sage advice that we were given one mouth and two ears for a reason. We need to encourage others to talk and then listen to understand.
Listening is an active process. It is much more than being silent. It involves empathy, which is to walk in someone’s shoes and understanding, which is the ability to relate without judging or fixing.
Listening is a skill that is developed with practice and as you master it, people will like you more and more.
#5 Talks to People In Terms of Their Interests
People love it when you can talk to them in terms of their interests. They love when you are knowledgeable on subjects they enjoy and can have intelligent conversation about what matters most to them.
That doesn’t mean that you have to be an expert in every category, but being able to talk to people in terms of their interests goes a long way. One way to do this is to study topics of interest before meeting with people. If you know that your business lunch is with a huge baseball fan, then take some time to brush up on your knowledge of the game. This small point may make the biggest difference in how the lunch turns out.
If you have paid attention to the first five ways to make people like you, you are probably noticing a trend. Each of the points is focused on the other person.
Talking in terms of other people’s interest is another way to put them first and leave a great impression.
#6 Make People Feel Important Do It Sincerely
Making people feel important can be done in a myriad of ways. You can give a compliment, remember their birthday or a special occasion, recognize them for their skills and contribution or give them a gift.
The key is to make sure you do it sincerely. Your motives must be pure. This is not about giving to get, it is about giving because you care.
People read through individuals who are fake and only in it for themselves. If you are going to compliment someone, make it sincere. Look at the good in people and point that out.
As a boy scout I was taught to leave a campsite better than before I got there. I think the same principle applies to people.
Leave every person better for having met you.
Maoni haya yameondolewa na mwandishi.
JibuFuta